Dating, as my friends who are out there playing the game insist, is not for wimps. Whether you're trolling via your friend network, or utilizing the worldwide 'web, the process is fraught with silliness.
So my friend J is going out tonight. To dinner. With an engineer her friends introduced her to at a wedding they all attended recently. Safe meeting ground, and good references since it was real friends and not some online service or scam 'vouching' for the guy. She feels good about this upcoming dinner, thinks the guy actually has a pretty good sense of humor (I did NOT say 'for an engineer' cuz that wouldn't be very nice).
There's only one problem. She's letting him pick her up. She never does this. See, she needs a way to escape..just in case things get dicey, which, as it turns out, they can do with no warning.
Turns out by the time he'd had her confirm her address, she was too deep in to back away without seeming rude. J is intensely polite, so it's no mystery why she occasionally gets into little binds like this one.
But on to the extreme part. I consider J to be one of the more spiritually attuned, highly intelligent people within my circle. She's funny and smart and very generous of herself with friends. She's also a woman who eschews pigeonholing and stereotyping and admitting to having a 'type' preference of her own. It's one of her endearing qualities, giving everyone a chance.
That said, this last weekend she spent time with a musician she's known for many years, and with whom things felt good. They shared quality time with friends and alone, over dinner sharing wine and music and personal tidbits and tales. They will most likely see each other again, though coordinating schedules will be a bit of trick. He travels. A lot. She's stationery with her job. They'll have to address that at some point if things progress.
Anyway, J has just begun dating after a long relationship's demise. She took time to heal and ask herself some of the harder questions, and is slowly putting her toe back into the dating pool. And clearly she's keeping her options open, which is both prudent and very interesting if you're on the outside looking in like so many of her married friends are...
It'll be interesting to see just how Engineer Man fares against Classical Musician Man. Engineer has one thing going for him that I know of. He just went to a tattoo convention, where he watched midget wrestling. That falls into the 'things that make your eyebrows shoot off your head' category, right?! There has to be a great story there...
Oh, J has an out just in case her date with engineer fails. I told her to text me with 'Help. Date gone south. Bailout needed.' and I'd be there in 15 minutes. Without question.
So my friend J is going out tonight. To dinner. With an engineer her friends introduced her to at a wedding they all attended recently. Safe meeting ground, and good references since it was real friends and not some online service or scam 'vouching' for the guy. She feels good about this upcoming dinner, thinks the guy actually has a pretty good sense of humor (I did NOT say 'for an engineer' cuz that wouldn't be very nice).
There's only one problem. She's letting him pick her up. She never does this. See, she needs a way to escape..just in case things get dicey, which, as it turns out, they can do with no warning.
Turns out by the time he'd had her confirm her address, she was too deep in to back away without seeming rude. J is intensely polite, so it's no mystery why she occasionally gets into little binds like this one.
But on to the extreme part. I consider J to be one of the more spiritually attuned, highly intelligent people within my circle. She's funny and smart and very generous of herself with friends. She's also a woman who eschews pigeonholing and stereotyping and admitting to having a 'type' preference of her own. It's one of her endearing qualities, giving everyone a chance.
That said, this last weekend she spent time with a musician she's known for many years, and with whom things felt good. They shared quality time with friends and alone, over dinner sharing wine and music and personal tidbits and tales. They will most likely see each other again, though coordinating schedules will be a bit of trick. He travels. A lot. She's stationery with her job. They'll have to address that at some point if things progress.
Anyway, J has just begun dating after a long relationship's demise. She took time to heal and ask herself some of the harder questions, and is slowly putting her toe back into the dating pool. And clearly she's keeping her options open, which is both prudent and very interesting if you're on the outside looking in like so many of her married friends are...
It'll be interesting to see just how Engineer Man fares against Classical Musician Man. Engineer has one thing going for him that I know of. He just went to a tattoo convention, where he watched midget wrestling. That falls into the 'things that make your eyebrows shoot off your head' category, right?! There has to be a great story there...
Oh, J has an out just in case her date with engineer fails. I told her to text me with 'Help. Date gone south. Bailout needed.' and I'd be there in 15 minutes. Without question.
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